Is It Crazy Or Clever To Ask A Male Date For A Female Reference?
A woman is sharing a tip online that she uses to spot red flags in potential dates after she got burned by a past lover but the tip itself could be a red flag for her potential date.
A 38-year-old woman who is going by the name Sarah has shared something she does before going out on a date with a guy. Sarah got burned by a past lover who was cheating on her and she missed a red flag when he wasn’t always available to answer his phone which he claimed it was because he was working.
Checking Dating References?
Since being fooled by him she now asks guys for a female reference to talk to and ask about red flags. The idea was actually given to her by two male friends when she was getting ready to start dating again after the break-up.
This move worked out for her, her now boyfriend had to provide a reference for her before they went out and hit it off. So now she is sharing this tip with others who may have found themselves in a similar situation.
Now take this tip with a grain of salt, because it is so out of the box that some men may think the request is a red flag. You have to admit it is kind of bizarre for a woman you’re about to take out for a date or drinks hits you up for a number of a female in your life that she can question about you… but to each their own.
Clever Dating Tip or Creepy?
What do you think about this? If potential employers ask for references, does it make sense to do it for dating, as well? I have mixed emotions on this idea. First, isn’t getting to know someone part of the fun and excitement of dating? Additionally, let’s not forget that the internet exists. You can find basically all the info you want on somebody by a simple Google search. You could also go through their social media pages. Stalk their Facebook, TikTok, X, Instagram, hey, even go way back and check out their MySpace to see what they were like in the mid 2000s. Then, you can take it further by seeing if they had a Live Journal account. That way you’ll have all the info you could need, without having to embarrass yourself asking for references on a date. Not the best way to start a date!