Sex Etiquette When You’re Visiting This Summer
David called The Cooper and Anthony Show. He was going to be visiting family and friends this summer with his new wife, but two months no sex? No thank you! So…what are the sex etiquette rules when you’re visiting friends and family?
THE RULE OF THUMB
The rule of thumb is, if the host is someone you would talk to about sex, then it is not disrespectful. When visiting the homes of family and friends, it is important to remember that you are a guest in someone else’s space. This means that you should be mindful of their rules and expectations, especially when it comes to sex etiquette.
Staying at a friend’s house is a green light, staying with grandparents is a hard pass. You’re going to have to grab a hotel room or go somewhere outside the house.
But in general, what you should do is try to find as much private and alone time as possible so you don’t have to go two months without sex. Because if it’s a small house, they will hear you, even if you think you’re being quiet and especially in the shower where everything echoes more than you realize.
So, you may have to stay at a cheap motel now and again, or on a night they’re out to dinner or poker night, tell them you guys just want to have a Netflix and chill night in so you have the house to yourselves and won’t have to worry about being heard – but use words like “we’re tired” or “we’re gonna stay in tonight.”
DISCRETION IS KEY
First and foremost, it is never appropriate to engage in any sexual activity in someone else’s home when they can hear you. If you’re just there for a weekend you could err on the side of caution and avoid any sexual behavior altogether at the house.
If you are in a romantic relationship and plan on sharing a bed with your partner while staying at someone else’s home, it is important to ask for their permission beforehand if sharing a baed is cool if you’re not married. It may seem old school but you may have family members who are uncomfortable with unmarried couples sleeping together under their roof, while others may be fine with it.
If and when you do get busy- keep it private and respectful. This means closing the door, using soundproofing techniques such as playing music or turning on a white noise machine, and avoiding any loud or disruptive behavior that could disturb other guests or the host.
It is also important to be mindful of any children who may be present in the home. Avoid engaging in any sexual behavior in common areas, such as the living room or kitchen, and make sure to keep toys, condom wrappers, whatever you get into- out of sight and out of reach.
Ultimately, when it comes to sex etiquette while visiting family and friend’s houses, the key is to be respectful and considerate of others. Remember that you are a guest in someone else’s home, and act accordingly.
Your main goal is to be a good guest, no drama, don’t be obvious you had sex, clean up after yourselves, don’t leave condoms and condom wrappers in the trash and wash your sheets before you leave – campfire rules, leave the place nicer than when you got there.