Virginity Ain’t What It Used To Be
Zora called The Cooper and Anthony Show. She wanted to know if masturbating made you no longer a virgin? And what if she never has PIV sex? Will she always be a virgin?
The entire concept of virginity has finally made its way into the 21st century- the hymen is no longer the arbiter of all things virginity because it’s not really a thing. Ask any gynecologist and they’ll tell you there really isn’t a hymen. It’s the ‘vaginal corona’ and it’s made up of folds of tissue.
In ancient times when men wanted a virgin bride they’d check to make sure this tissue was intact. But now, the idea that breaking this vaginal tissue meant you are no longer a virgin is ludicrous. What if you went horseback riding or played a sport, that could break it…so that means you’re not a virgin? No
Virginity is a social construct. How you define losing yours is really up to you. Lesbians who never have PIV sex, are they virgins their entire lives? Of course not. Same with gay men.
WHAT CONSTITUTES “LOSING YOUR VIRGINITY” NOW?
Whatever you think constitutes losing your virginity that’s what it is- for many people it’s sex with the first person they love.
The concept of virginity has undergone significant changes throughout history and across cultures. In many traditional societies, virginity was highly valued and considered a mark of purity and virtue, particularly for women. The loss of virginity outside of marriage was often seen as a shameful and dishonorable act that brought disgrace to both the individual and their family.
However, with the advent of modernity and the rise of individualism, the concept of virginity has gradually shifted towards a more personal and subjective understanding. Today, virginity is often seen as a matter of personal choice rather than a societal expectation or norm. The emphasis is on personal agency and autonomy, with individuals deciding when and with whom to engage in sexual activity.
INCLUSIVITY “DOWN THERE”
Moreover, the concept of virginity has become increasingly inclusive and diverse, reflecting the growing recognition of different sexual orientations and gender identities. The traditional binary view of virginity, which equated it with heterosexual vaginal intercourse, has been challenged by a more expansive understanding that includes other forms of sexual activity and experiences.
In recent years, there has been a growing movement to challenge and reject the concept of virginity altogether. Critics argue that it reinforces harmful gender stereotypes, promotes sexual shame and stigma, and perpetuates a narrow and limiting view of sexuality. Instead, some advocates promote a more positive and affirming view of sexuality that values consent, pleasure, and mutual respect.
The concept of virginity has undergone significant changes in recent years, reflecting broader social, cultural, and political shifts. While it still retains some meaning and significance for many individuals, particularly within certain religious and cultural contexts, its importance and relevance have become increasingly contested and varied.
IF IT’S UP TO ME, THEN WHAT ABOUT MASTURBATION?
The concept of virginity can vary based on cultural, social, and personal beliefs. Generally speaking, virginity is often defined as the state of never having engaged in sexual intercourse with another person. Masturbation, on the other hand, is a form of sexual self-stimulation that does not involve another person.
Therefore, from a traditional perspective, masturbation would not typically be considered a loss of virginity. However, this is ultimately up to the individual’s personal beliefs and definitions of what constitutes virginity. Some individuals may consider any sexual activity to be a loss of virginity, including masturbation.
It’s important to remember that virginity is a social construct, and everyone has the right to define and interpret it in their own way. It’s also important to prioritize self-exploration and understanding of one’s own body and sexuality in a healthy and consensual manner.